Hello, it has been a while…

Hello, my 2 readers!

I trust you are well in your part of the world!

Apologies for my absence, though I have been writing in other forums / areas to still express myself.

Warning, some dark material ahead, but needed to get this out of my head…

Warning 2, my jokey norm is not in this post…

So, the last 18 months have been a bit shit with my family’s health, not my immediate family (wife and the kids, the only 2 biologically known people to me – story for another day if you didn’t know that)

I will expand further in coming posts, but the headlines are:

1.

My mum has suffered depression all of her life, and it was quite difficult with her growing up and beyond. She really broke down with vascular dementia in the last 18 months and is now in a care facility that suits her needs.

It was a very difficult path, one I am still processing. “You are not my son” still cuts me to my core, as this was an angle she used on me in the past being an adopted kid.

That being said I haven’t seen her as positive since my kids were born. It is wonderful.  She looks genuinely happy to see me. Thank you to Sue, for stepping in, when I could not.

2.

My brother believed he had MND, which he did not.

He dropped 100 tablets at his work but was found in time.

He tried again in the hospital, cutting himself

He was moved to a secure area and monitored.

Got out, tried again.

He heads into a new facility tomorrow.

This guy doesn’t take my calls 98% of the time. I always take his, as it is rare that he reaches out. He has reached out recently.

I want him to stick around.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

 

 

4 thoughts on “Hello, it has been a while…

  1. I think of you and your family often Sean! Seems like a life time ago that we sat at all those soccer and futsal matches! 2019 was a mix of good and bad for us! 2 weddings and 3 funerals (sounds like a movie). Take care and look after your family! Family first … and would love to hear more about the adoption storyline – also being adopted! PS….love your When in Wynnum page. 🙂

    1. Hey Sandra, so lovely to hear from you! I have fond memories of our times on the sidelines and the field playing (and getting banned 😀) I have lots of journals of adoption thoughts, struggles and acceptance, which I hope to publish somewhere. re my When in Wynnum page, that’s awesome you found it and realise it was me. Take care, look forward to catching up!

  2. Oh Sean I am so glad that you have this forum to vent on. Sue has been keeping us updated on developments and I for one just want to let you know that you are doing an amazing job of looking after your Mum and also now supporting your brother.

    You are the son that every mother wishes she had!!!

    My Mum is also walking down the dementia path, although her diagnosis is currently mild cognitive deficiency tending towards alzheimers (they think), and it is not easy as a care giver. Mum entered a nursing facility today as I found that I am struggling with keeping up the care that she needs as well as working full time and tending to my own families needs. It is not an easy decision to make, and I am sure if Mum was of full mind she would understand.

    Just remember you cannot pour from an empty cup – you need to care for yourself first and foremost. You have an amazing wife by your side and two beautiful kids and lots of friends willing to listen and support you as well. Sending you lots of strength and love.

    1. Hi Sandy, thanks so much for your kind commments, and Sue has been letting me know the journey you have been on with your Mum, and I have now seen your fb post.

      you cannot pour from an empty cup

      Love this, and it is a good reminder! I have heard a similar phrase which now comes to mind, “Make sure you apply your own oxygen mask before attending others”

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